Families need help. But before one can help them effectively, we need
to first look at our own families before we can effectively help
others.
How is your family life?
Jesus said these words in Matthew 7:3-5:
Mat 7:3 "Why do you see the speck in your brother's eye but fail to notice the beam in your own eye?
Mat 7:4 Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when the beam is in your own eye?
Mat
7:5 You hypocrite! First remove the beam from your own eye, and then
you will see clearly enough to remove the speck from your brother's
eye."
If we want to use this command to work among
families in our churches, a church leader must first look at his or her
family life.
Problems at home can destroy a Leader’s work
The
family life of a church leader is very important. Many leaders suffer
from problems at home. It is not easy for a church leader to advise an
unhappy family and a young couple when his own family life is not happy.
Failure to solve his own problems renders him powerless to effectively
advise others. The leader needs to first learn how to lead his own
family, otherwise he cannot be a good example and his family problems
will break his heart.
On a positive note, if a leader is a good
husband and father, he can be an inspiration to his church. God can heal
unhappy families. That is good news. Everyone needs to understand that
family life is very important. That includes mine and yours.
Your family life comes before your work
Any
church leader needs to understand that we are first of all children of
God. Secondly, we are fathers or mothers. Thirdly, we are pastors or
whatever profession we are in. This order ensures a balanced and
disciplined life. The qualification of a church leader is clearly stated
in 1 Timothy 3:2, 4-5:
1Ti 3:2
Therefore, an elder must be blameless, the husband of one wife, stable,
sensible, respectable, hospitable to strangers, and teachable.
1Ti 3:4 He must manage his own family well and have children who are submissive and respectful in every way.
1Ti 3:5 For if a man does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God's church?
The
Lord in His wisdom knows that if a church leader’s home is poorly
managed, it will be a heavy burden on him. He cannot be effective on his
work. Before a church leader is ordained, there has to be an
examination of his qualification with regards to God’s standards. His
church and the kingdom of God can be severely damaged if the church
leader is not faithful to his or her spouse and does not correctly lead
his or her children.
People need good examples
What
can a leader do to touch lives? A church leader can influence others in
two ways. The root of a leader’s power is the way he lives what he
teaches according to 1 Timothy 4:16, which says, “Pay
close attention to your life and your teaching. Persevere in these
things, because if you do so, you will save both yourself and those who
listen to you.”
What will make people better respond to
what we preach is for our own words to agree with our lives. The way we
conduct our lives should be living sermons. Good examples make others to
obey Christ more.
According to the Scriptures, people grow and
learn by hearing the Word, seeing someone live it, then choosing to obey
the Word, and finally gaining personal experience. We have the
following scriptures as support to what has just been said.
“Likewise,
keep practicing these things: what you have learned, received, heard,
and seen in me. Then the God of peace will be with you.”(Philippians 4:9).
1 Peter 5:2-3:
1Pe 5:2
Be shepherds of God's flock that is among you, watching over it, not
because you must but because you want to, and not greedily but eagerly,
as God desires.
1Pe 5:3 Do not lord it over the people entrusted to you, but be examples to the flock.
In
conclusion, there are many Christians who came to the Lord and their
marriages and families were saved through good examples of godly living
by their church leaders than just their words. It is important to study
and learn more about godly family life since church ministry depends on
it. After learning, let us first apply it to our own homes. Then we can
effectively teach the people of God through words and by example.
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Wednesday, February 15, 2017
How to Effectively Lead your Family as a Leader
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Elphas Sipho Mdluli
Small Business/Executives & Marriage Coach. Also Senior Pastor and Visionary of Freedom Centre International Church in Swaziland. Previously worked as General Manager of a financial institution.
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